First off, this post is long overdue. I’ve spent the last two weeks learning some invaluable lessons about life. I’d like to be transparent for a moment and admit that the wisdom I’m going to lay down right now isn’t the wisdom that I’ve earned myself; rather, someone else earned it and decided to share the fruits of their labor with me.
As a trainer I spent most of my days teaching people how to work against heavy objects to improve themselves. In retrospect, I now realize my parents were teaching me to do the same with the external forces that life may or may not someday throw my way. Truthfully, it’s also the type of lesson that’s lost on most young people until one day they find themselves standing at the same crossroads as the generation that came before them. I’m not the exception to that rule. These are the things my parents taught me (and are still teaching me) :
- Responsibility is something to be taken with a grain of salt. Yeah, you need to get things taken care of, but don’t let that stop you from stepping outside of your own anxiety to appreciate what life has to offer.
- In moments of anger you will never think straight. Before you get to that point always try and see the circumstances that are causing the situation. Is it just you? Or is there a real issue? Real issues come and go, but people will always remember whether or not you kept your cool.
- We all have bad days. Some are worse than others. Don’t make others feel equally as miserable as you when it happens. You need the happy people in your life to keep you balanced. Otherwise you’re going to make everyone happy when you exit the room. That’s a lame existence.
- If you’re not sure about something just say so. There’s nothing worse than projecting confidence and giving people tangible proof that you’re an ass.
- Always check your receipts
- Be upfront about your expectations. It’s not everyone else’s job to guess what you’re thinking. It’s your responsibility to communicate things effectively. You might have lofty expectations but that’s because you expect the best from everyone around you.
- Don’t make yourself the standard by which you compare others. It’s comparing apples to oranges. You were raised a certain way, others were raised differently. It takes all kinds to make a world.
- If you fall seven times, get up seven times.
This is by no means a comprehensive list of the things I’ve learned from my parents. But I do have to say, I’m grateful that they’ve taught me how to shoulder the bigger loads in life. In a lot of ways, it dwarfs any lesson that I’ve taught as a trainer. That’s totally OK.